Well hello there. It’s been 9 months since I visited the pages of this journal so I just may be typing to myself.
During the past 9 months, like the 9 months that it takes to birth a new life, something new has been developing, growing and birthing in me.
I’m not sure if that means that I will consistently write in this space again but that may happen.
I’ve been up to soul care. My soul care. Sometimes, like King David, we need to speak to our souls. I love the Psalms. The honesty of David is so refreshing. He was honest but always ended his prayers with attention directed toward God. He may have been depressed, downtrodden, running for his life at times but in his honestly he found God to always be enough. He could praise and worship the God who loved him only after pouring out his heart before him. Sometimes he had to speak directly to his soul…Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God. Psalm 42:5
When Bob and I returned home after almost 11 months away for Bob’s cancer treatment and ultimate bone marrow transplant, I thought I’d pick up right where I left off. But as Bob recovered I found that I needed a period of recovery too.
For so many months I ran 90 miles an hour without thinking much about what I/we were going through. I had to stay strong, above collapsing, taking care of Bob, arranging hospital and doctor appointments, organizing the dozens of medications that he needed, making sure he received the correct doses at the right time, administering medications through IV’s, keeping everything sterile, watching him helpless; limp with barely being able to lift his head off of his pillow most days and feeling helpless when I couldn’t take his discomfort away.
Not much changed after we got home. I was on high alert as Bob struggled with more setbacks and serious hospitalizations. Go, go go… that’s what I did without much thinking, without much down time except praying and asking God to supply what I needed to keep going at that crazy pace. I knew that I couldn’t get sick and that put more pressure on me. There were times when I would think: I feel sick. What was that pain? Oh no, I can’t get sick. Bob needs me. Sometimes my thoughts were irrational. Stress will do that.
Bob’s doctors told us that it wasn’t going to be easy but we didn’t fully grasp the full scope of it until we got to the other side and looked back.
As Bob recovered and could do more for himself again, I found I remained on high alert not able to relax nor could I find lasting inner peace and quiet that I often experienced during the months away. There was more peace during the hardest places because I was being carried…carried by the Lord even when I couldn’t feel it. It’s obvious now in hindsight.
Many people run through life at high speed so they don’t have to face the truth about themselves or the thorny, painful, hurtful areas of life. They know if they slow down they would have to come face to face with themselves, their fears and anxiety. Running from the pain seems easier so they continue running in the wrong direction. Trying to quench their thirst for God with counterfeit gods doesn’t bring lasting peace. It’s just a bandage but won’t reach or heal the deep wounds of life.
What brings peace is being honest with ourselves, with God, facing our fears, hurts and surrendering them to God. Then we can slow down and live at peace, because we’re no longer running away but toward the one who cares for us like a good father.
I’m by nature a quiet, reflective type. It’s always been easy for me to unwind. I always thrived on peace, quiet, and by being alone but the running to care for Bob, living for so long on high alert, in the flight or fright syndrome — not by choice but by necessity — I became accustomed to that lifestyle. The hypervigilance that I lived for so long left me jumpy, waiting for the next crisis to respond to when I didn’t have to do that anymore. It served me well for many months but began to hurt me when I couldn’t let it go after the necessity to live that way was gone.
I needed to face my fear, anxiety, claim it, speak it out loud, tell God about it and then surrender it all to him. So I have been in process of letting go of the lifestyle I lived for so long and allowing a peaceful, quiet life to be birthed in me again.
That’s where I am. I haven’t been gone just facing myself, those deepest fears, anxiety, realizing it’s okay to rest now. Jesus says: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28) It’s been good for me to rest in Christ.
Healing comes in different ways. Bob is in a complete molecular remission and I am healing emotionally.
Here’s a great song that speaks to me right now. You may like it too. Sometimes we just need to speak to our soul like King David did…
It’s all good, because like the lyrics by Casting Crowns says … “Oh my soul you are not alone. There’s a place for fear to face the God you know. One more day he will make a way. Let him show you how you can lay this down. Cause you’re not alone.”
That’s for me, for you, for all of us.
15 thoughts on “Oh my soul…”
Welcome back, Nancy! Glad to read that Bob is doing better, but I’m pained you’ve had such a rough patch. Caregiving can be so exhausting. This is for you – hope you like it. Casting Crowns: Just be Held –
Thank you Kathryne. Bob’s healing is truly a miracle. We praise God everyday for that. I think going through this will help me to minister to other caregivers. We need to feel the pain of others to truly be able to help them. I’ve already talked to a caregiver who just ended up in the hospital from anxiety. I have faith that God will give all of this meaning and purpose. Thank you for the song. I’ve listened to that before too and I will listen to it again now. God bless! ❤
A great reminder to be real and raw before God. It seems to always go full circle and ending in praise and trust in God’s unfailing love.❤ It’s great to see your inspiring words again.✍🏻❤ Love you
So true. I don’t think we can reach praise and worship unless we’re real and raw with God first. Thanks for reading and for your comment. Love you too. ❤ xo
It’s so nice to read another one of your journal entries! You have such a way with words!
I can picture what it must have been like, and what you are going through now because of the way you are able to so clearly put your experiences in words. Such a gift. Prayers for you and for Bob!
Thank you so much, Vickie. Your comments are always encouraging. God bless!
Nancy, I’m rejoicing with you that Bob’s illness is in remission. 🙂 By the way, I love Casting Crowns. I’ve been listening to their “Life Song” one over and over again this last while. I’m glad you’re finding your quiet place of stillness in Christ again. Stress is never a fun ride to be on.
Blessings ~ Wendy
Thank you Wendy. Bob is a walking miracle. We are so thankful to the Lord for His healing. After almost 2 years, he’s able to come out of isolation and join the real world again. His immune system is strong and only the donor cells (our son’s) can be found in his bone marrow. So the transplant was a success. The Chromosome that caused the cancer isn’t being detected now. He takes an oral chemo drug that is targeting that chromosome. If it stays undetected for 2 years, they will wean him off the oral drug. Pulling away has been good for me. I’m finding that just resting in Christ is the best medicine for me! 🙂 Hope you and your family are well. God Bless!
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Hello dear Nancy. ❤️ So glad Bob is healing, that you are healing. Sweet prayers for you both as you rest & continue to strengthen.
Thank you so much. This time of rest is strengthening me Spiritually, emotionally, physically and mentally. I appreciate your sweet prayers. Happy Easter to you and yours! ❤
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My Dear Friend, I am so happy to see you writing again. I have missed your pens and journals and just thought you must not have much reserve to do that after all you have been through with Bob. It is good to know you are feeling more yourself after such a long time of stressful happenings. Every day we prayed, not only for Bob, but for you also to be able to go through this and remain healthy spiritually and emotionally. Now you both are going in to this season of spring which is such an uplifting time of year..a time of new life…just as you and Bob are experiencing. Praise God. We continue to pray and love you both.
Thank you Bonnie. It truly is a beautiful and uplifting time of year and both of us are so grateful for the signs of new life all around us and in us. Especially the new life that God has given Bob! There’s a lot of joy in beginning to step into the real world after such a long time away from most of it. We don’t take anything for granted and it’s like experiencing so much for the first time again. Thank you for your faithful prayers. They have sustained us. God Bless you and Tom. Happy Easter dear friend!
Nancy, that is so touching and beautiful! May God truly bless you and Bob in your individual yet common recovery. We are so privileged that you you have so openly shared with us these many long months. Again, may the Lord bless you and keep you!
Thank you so much, Tom. We couldn’t have made it through these many long months without the prayers of people like you who have remained faithful in lifting us and our family up to our Lord. We appreciate your love and support. God Bless!
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