Lament: The Doorway to Blessing

Me:  God, I’m angry.  I need help dealing with this.  

God:  You’re not really angry.

Me:  What? You are all knowing.  You see me, know the circumstances I’m facing and you’re telling me I’m not angry?

God: You don’t have to hide your feelings from me.  I want you to be vulnerable and authentic.  

Me:  Huh?  I am being vulnerable.   

God: Today you finally stopped carrying this alone and brought it to me for help.

Me:  Yes, I need help with this anger.

God: So why are you angry?

Me:  You know how I’ve been hurt in that relationship. There’s so much that I don’t understand and after all these years of friendship to be treated like an enemy is hurtful and makes me sad. I tried to reach out to talk but she shut the door on all communication.

God:  Ah, so you’re hurt and sad?  Have you read Psalm 55: 12-14?

If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were raising himself against me, I could hide from him. But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend, with whom I once enjoyed sweet fellowship as we walked with the throng at the house of God. Psalm 55: 12-14

Me:  Tears flow …

God:  My door is always open to you. Read Matthew 5: 3-4 and mediate on those verses for awhile.

I come before the Lord empty.

Spiritually I’m destitute.  I’m not strong enough in my own strength to handle this. I need Him. I open my bible to Matthew 5: 3-4:

Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

There’s no room for anger, unforgiveness or pride, not even a little wiggle room.  

I humble myself, I’m truthful about who I am and what I’m feeling.

Lacking what I need, I open my hands. I’m ready to receive.

This is my vulnerable place.

My mind flashes back to when I first came to Jesus years ago. I was finally truthful with Him about who I was.  That was the door to salvation.  

He swung open the door and welcomed me in and here in this present moment He does the same.

That vulnerability that brings me to God comes through what the Bible refers to as lament.

Lament means: “To express sorrow, regret, or unhappiness about something.” Or: “A passionate expression of grief or sorrow.”

Jesus’ first sermon goes counter culturally to what our world says we need in order to be fulfilled and lamenting seems weak.

But God shows me, in the first beatitude, that being poor in spirit brings me blessing and that His kingdom is mine.  

I read it again: “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven”. Matthew 5:3

That’s present tense.  That means right here; right now.  

Honest lament and being truthful with God is the doorway into His presence and that doorway leads to His kingdom … on earth as it is in Heaven.

I share my hurt, sorrow, confusion, grief and I am transported above this painful circumstance.  

I’m free to grieve.  I’m free to be vulnerable.  It’s ok to not be ok when I’m in His presence.  

I mourn my loss.  I read Matthew 5:4 again. “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted”.

I am comforted, at peace and spiritually full. This is what it means to be blessed.

8 thoughts on “Lament: The Doorway to Blessing

  1. Oh Nancy, I can remember when I was so angry, frustrated & depressed all at the same time. Yet I kept praying & stayed in the scriptures and kept my eyes on The Lord and He made it clear to me that like you pointed out, that there is no room for anger, unforgiveness, or pride.
    Especially pride! Holding on to pride that I was in no way at fault for what I was dealing with… was the real turning point to the healing process. It was understanding that just the “fact” that I was NOT perfect… was reason “enough” to have contributed to the struggles…..even if not “directly”. And that awareness turned my feelings into forgiveness toward the individual and as a result was humbled and grateful for God’s Grace. It was after that I directed my anger towards God because I knew He had the power to change it all if He wanted to. But He didn’t right away. It kept me humble. He kept reminding that He knows what He’s doing and what’s best for ALL concerned and that I just needed to keep trusting Him. It made me a different person today. 💕
    God is good ALL the time! 🥰


    1. Vickie, Yes God is good and he is always at work in all circumstances that affect us. He will turn everything around for his glory and our good if we keep trusting. It always helps for me to remember how much love he has for all his children. For you to even see everything so clearly now is truly a gift as is your deep faith to persevere as he worked. The freedom and joy you have is an inspiration. xo


  2. Beautiful Nancy! I was listening to a speaker one evening at my church and her message was titled Deliberately Desperate Daughter.
    You’re writing solidified & confirmed her message and brought it to life for me. Thank you! ❤️


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